How long do you usually date someone before you tell them that you love them? And does that change based on whether you have multiple partners at the time?


I haven’t dated tons of people, so I’m not sure there’s a ‘usually’ there. I’d imagine a “few months” might be usual, but with my current primary partner we sort of started off already there.

I’ve never told someone other than my primary partner I loved them since I started doing polyamory - all my other relationships thus far have not been dating-type relationships, sadly. Hopefully I’ll get to have some more of those soon, and when I do I expect being already dating someone else won’t change things much.




all of these are very important


Heck, these tips apply even to the not-so-young. And I second point #12 very much. If someone pressures you into sex from the get-go and mocks you for not wanting to get physical quickly, it’s time to boot that person out on their ass. Sometimes I think the media makes young people believe they have to have sex as soon as possible just to be ‘normal’, and I wish that particular message would just go away and be replaced by point #12.

For the most part this is pretty accurate, I think.

(Source: etoilesdelanuit)

Aug 7

irarelysmile replied to your post “OKCupid doesn’t tease me as much as Plenty of Fish, but I’ll admit I…”

What’s plenty of fish?

Dating website.  It is pretty big, at least around these parts, lots of folks on it… But it really doesn’t have any kind of match-making, and most of the profiles are usually “lol i h8 writing this dumb things lolololololol im jus typing until it says i dont need more character lol! holla at me if your hot!”

There’s a ton of people on there, though, so there are some good profiles on there, it is just so low effort to set up a profile that many people put in zero effort.

Aug 7

:) :( :D ;O


Well, feel free to talk to me if you don’t already, and we can remedy :( at least and maybe make ;O happen. :)  And in any event, thank you!

Aug 7

Single or not, reblog see what you get.




<3 = Im falling for you.

:) = I wanna cuddle up with you while watching movies

;) = I like you a lot

:( = You should talk to me more.

:D = You’re sexy/beautiful/hot.

;O = I want to be tumblr best friends.

:P = I want you more than anything.

:K = Kiss me

:| = You annoy me

:* = We need to make out!

<*3 = I want a tumblr relationship with you.

8=D I want to do sexual things with you

Do et please :) !

Not single, yet still available of course.

(Source: questionabledreams)

Aug 7

OKCupid doesn’t tease me as much as Plenty of Fish, but I’ll admit I still went “Oh, a message from OKCupid, I wonder what lovely young la - oh, it is merely my birthday” today. :)

Aug 5

Do folks still do the TMI Tuesday thing?


Feel free to ask me whatever you like. As always, relationship-type asks will probably get reblogged to my poly blog, and any sex-type asks will probably get answered on my sex blog.

Aug 2

11 Answers To ‘Don’t You Get Jealous?’


1. Yes.

2. Sometimes.

3. Not as much as I used to.

4. I also get jealous of my coworkers sometimes.

5. Don’t you sometimes get jealous in your monogamous relationships?

6. I don’t think that’s a enough of a reason not to do it.

7. You can distract yourself by reading, cleaning, watching a movie, making something, or spending time with other people.

8. You can work through it by sitting with it, thinking about it, journaling on it, or talking it over.

9. I think the good stuff outweighs the bad stuff.

10. It’s worth the freedom I get.

11. It’s worth seeing my partner happy.

So much this.

I am so tired of the “If you get jealous you’re not made for polyamory” stuff I hear sometimes too…so silly. Thankfully, most of the poly communities I circulate in are pretty good at recognizing the jealousy is a perfectly natural emotion that folks feel about all sorts of things, and the key is just to handle it like an adult.


Girls with Slingshots by Danielle Corsetto

An awesome, progressive, super fun comic containing a wide variety of relationship styles and sexualities.  Danielle is <3.

I can have my cake and date it too

- Something I literally just said when talking about being poly (via thegreatnessideserve)