I can have my cake and date it too

- Something I literally just said when talking about being poly (via thegreatnessideserve)

Creating content for this blog is hard. For my main blog, I can just, y’know, talk about stuff that I’ve been doing. For my sex blog, I can just ramble about what turns me on or write some smut.

But for this blog, I have to either have some new developments in my dating life or some interesting thoughts on polyamory, and those don’t exactly come on demand. :P


the scary thing about dating is that you are either going to marry that person or break up

But….this isn’t necessarily true at all.

I can definitely date someone with no intention of ever breaking up with them or marrying them. That’s a thing.

(Source: anus)

Third day in BC…first day at Pemberton Music Festival!

So if you’re wondering why I’m not posting anything, aside from not having poly stuff to post, that’s the reason.

On the flip side, if any of you are in Pemberton this weekend, or Vancouver early next week, feel free to say hey. :)

See What Your Followers Think Of You

  •  = You’re my tumblr crush.
  •  = I love your blog.
  • ✄ = I love you.
  • Σ = Scared to talk to you
  •  = You’re hot.
  • ☁ = You’re beautiful.
  • ☂ = You should check out my blog.
  • ♕ = You inspire me.
  • ♔ = I wish we talked.
  • ☯ = I wish we were friends in real life.
  • ♋ = I wish you were my mate.
  • ♫ = I really think about you ALOT
  • ✖ = You’re ugly.
  • ☢ = I don’t like you.
  • ✡ = I hate you.
  • ☠: Your blog sucks, bitch.
Inbox Me Symbols 

I really need to get some more things happening in my dating life so I have more to post on here other than reblogging memes from my main blog or my sex blog.

And, yet, this remains my blog with the most followers.

(Source: sayspider)

My Life on OkCupid


Send copy/paste messages to women who are terrible matches.

-receive tons of enthusiastic responses-

Send thoughtfully written, highly personalized messages to women who are 99% matches.

-cricket sounds-


I don’t send copy/paste messages to anyone, but it does seem I have an easier time getting interest from women who are terrible matches.

From this I can only assume that I have the misfortune of being good matches with women with good taste. :P

Jul 6





How would monogamous people feel if we boiled their concept of love down to just sex?

"Oh, you’re monogamous? Well, I guess you’re just not ready for a real relationship.”

"Monogamy? That never works out. Every monogamous relationship I’ve heard about has ended in a breakup or someone dying."

"I had one friend one time who had a monogamous relationship and it turned out to be a complete disaster."

Jul 5


Do I Actually Have a Crush On You Or Do I Just Like That You’re Nice to Me and Cute: a novel by me

I do crush on a lot of people, but I will totally admit just how far “Being nice to me” will go with me sometimes, even fairly superficial niceness. It is a problem sometimes.

Jul 4

Venting About Poly-Mono Partnerships Doing It BADLY


So last night I went to a friend’s house (not a super close friend but a con friend I’ve hung out with outside cons a handful of times). He’s poly and his gf is mono, though they’ve had a threesome that went well and he seems convinced she’ll be comfortable with other poly-ish things at some point. I think he’s deluding himself.

He was cuddling with his gf in the bed while we watched a movie, and he raised his arm in invitation to cuddle me as well.

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I’ve seen this scenario play out more times than I’d like to count.

It is like - check to see if everyone is comfortable. And if someone isn’t comfortable, adjust what you are doing, don’t just bully on through figuring they’ll get used to it in time.

Polyamory isn’t like some kind of emotional hardening where you just have to make your partners feel bad enough times and they’ll toughen up to it. What helps people feel comfortable in poly relationships is if you demonstrate to them repeatedly and consistently that you care about them and their feelings, and that you’ll think about them before doing things that might make them uncomfortable.

And all of that only works if they actually want to be poly, of course.

Sorry you had to deal with that incident, notgreenpaint, that sounds uncomfortable to go through suffice it to say.


i currently have a crush on 94 people at the same time 

Yeah, pretty much.